Here, I want to share a little more about myself and my personal story around my sexuality and my multi-orgasm journey, so you can understand where I come from and why I do what I do.
The pain that supported my growth
After being a porn addict for 15 years and trying to stop for 10 years (on and off), the practice that truly transformed me was when I gained control of my sexual energy. By doing this, I managed to achieve multiple orgasms, but it is actually so much more than that. In the past, I would go crazy if I didn't ejaculate at least once or twice per week. Unable to have this need met consistently by my partners (or any partners at all), I would fall back on porn. Porn was also a means of escaping, a way to numb my emotions so that I wouldn't feel the sadness or loneliness in my body. This mechanism stems from my teenage years where I felt very lonely and I developed this coping mechanism in order to feel better. It's true to say that this addiction really helped me back then. But later this habit did not serve me anymore and was destructive. Changing a habit developed during teenage years is very challenging. I developed other unhealthy habits later in life but it was always way easier to change them (alcohol, coffein, etc...)
After losing a beautiful relationship, I started a journey to work on myself that lasted more than two years, during which I questioned everything about myself and did the work.
It was only after diving deeper into the Taoist practices popularized by Mantak Chia in his book 'The Multi-Orgasmic Man', and after attending many Consent, Tantra and self-exploration workshops, that I made complete peace with my sexual energy.
Sexual energy needs to move. Sexual energy IS life energy. There is no difference. It is one of the most powerful energy, the source of creation. After several failed attempts at going full cold turkey (no porn, no masturbation, no sex) within the NoFap community, this understanding was a salvation. Sexual energy needs to move, not stay stuck somewhere. This is actually very unhealthy on the long run -short period are sometimes necessary- .
Being at peace with my sexual energy
With these taoist practices, I learned how to move the energy from my genitals up into my body, to the brain for more creative energy, and to anywhere in the body. Not "wasting" it ejaculating in tissues. This gives me much more energy and creativity. By doing simple, regular practices, I became at peace with my sexual energy so much so that it had an enormous impact on my relationships (specifically with women). I now have no more expectations, hopes, or unsaid wishes when engaging with someone. I can be truly myself and at peace because I know I'll be able to handle my energy on my own. If there is consent and we both want to engage sexually, great! If we have an amazing chat and become deep friends but it stays at that, great too!
This new shift allowed me to engage with full authenticity and honesty with the people around me, and led me to the most beautiful encounters I could imagine. One of my partners didn't want to have PIV (Penis-In-Vagina) penetration for her healing journey, fine! Respecting this boundary was truly transformative for both of us. It allowed us to connect deeper on an energetic level and build a high level of trust for each other. It didn't have any influence on my love and support for her. This trust allowed my partner to express her sexual energy more freely, without any pressure or expectations. In the end it was very healing for both of us.
Another partner lost sexual desire for me for several months. At first, I thought our relationship would end, but our emotional connection was so deep – and even got deeper – that I just could NOT see her differently than a partner. Again it didn't affect my love for her. We are both poly so I could satisfy my sexual needs elsewhere. After some time, we reconnected sexually, and it became even more beautiful. I realised that our relationship is so much more than this.
I also realised that unconsciously some parts of me did want to go through these experiences. For my own healing journey. This awareness allowed me to take my part of responsibility in these experiences. I am aware that sexual issues (porn, unhealthy behavior regarding sex) is a topic in my male ancestors line. This chain of traumas ends now with me.
Self-love: embracing my darkest desires
A significant aspect of my healing journey was accepting my darker desires. Specifically, my interest in anal sex, which once caused me considerable shame and guilt. Today, I embrace these desires as part of who I am. I openly discuss my fetishes with my partners, outlining what I like and what I don't. To my surprise, my partners responded positively, accepting me for who I am while also respecting their own boundaries. Interestingly, while many of my partners chose not to indulge these fetishes, the mere act of expressing them openly fostered greater intimacy in our relationships.
The manner in which these desires are communicated is crucial—they are expressed as wishes or fantasies, not as demands or in manipulative ways that could limit love if unmet. In fact, I celebrate my partners' ability to say "no." This affirmation gives me confidence, knowing that when they say "yes," it's a genuine, enthusiastic "Hell Yes!"—not a polite, people-pleasing "yes." I've had enough of that, and so has our society.
I've discovered that the purest form of intimacy, which almost all humans unconsciously crave, is achieved when one can fully accept oneself, without hiding any part of their being.
My personal initiation
My final initiation into multi-orgasmic practices culminated in a personal challenge: to abstain from ejaculation for 30 days. During this period, I was fortunate to have the support of an incredible woman who supported me throughout this initiation. We engaged in sexual activity nearly every day, sometimes multiple times a day. We had an intense, deep passionate connection, cultivating our energies together. She helped me supercharge myself and access my deepest power. Giving me a glimpse of what sacred sexuality is like. Through this I was able to keep my commitment not to ejaculate during the whole period. It was definitely a big challenge, but I succeeded and now I feel ready and prepared to share these practices with others.
However, for the sake of clarity, I want to emphasize that not ejaculating for such a long time is not a path I universally recommend. I believe ejaculation is both healthy and immensely pleasurable. My aim is to assist you in discovering your ideal ejaculation frequency—to encourage mindful and conscious ejaculation. Not to stop it completely.
My intention in doing this work
I hope my journey can be inspiring for you and that I can help you in yours, but remember that each person is unique, and everyone has to find their ideal path.
My intention in teaching and giving workshops is to help other men come at peace with their sexual energy in a healthy way (without using porn, without becoming monks). To help them become multi-orgasmic so that they can learn to feel intense pleasure and emotions, have more energy and beautiful intimate and safe relationships. For the love of society, for pleasure, for men and women. My journey began as a voluntary effort, sharing this knowledge at festivals and with friends. Witnessing the immense interest and impact it had on people inspired me to pursue this path professionally.
If you resonate with this and want to work with me, feel free to contact me. You can follow my upcoming online course, come to a live workshop, an online one, or work with me on 1-to-1 for personal coaching.
Much Love ❤️